Elephant in the Room
idiom /ˈɛl.ɪ.fənt ɪn ðə ruːm/ — An obvious problem everyone is aware of but no one will discuss
Definition
A major, obvious issue, problem, or uncomfortable truth that exists in plain sight but that everyone in the situation is deliberately avoiding addressing. The elephant is undeniable and yet, by mutual agreement, unnamed.
Beyond the definition
Elephant in the room is the language of collective avoidance — the word for what happens when acknowledging something feels more dangerous than ignoring it. The elephant gets larger with each silence.
Origin & history
From a 1959 New York Times article, though the metaphor's logic is older. The absurdity of ignoring something as large and obvious as an elephant made the image perfect for naming the dynamic of avoided truths.
Example sentences
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Nobody mentioned the resignation. The elephant in the room grew enormous.
Eventually someone has to name the elephant. It doesn't get smaller by being ignored.
She walked in, looked around, and addressed the elephant directly. The relief in the room was palpable.
How to use it
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Choose “Elephant in the Room” when the meaning fits your context: A major, obvious issue, problem, or uncomfortable truth that exists in plain sight but that everyone in the situation is deliberately avoiding addressing. The elephant is undeniable and yet, by mutual agreement, unnamed.
Synonyms
unaddressed issue, avoided truth, the obvious thing, taboo subject
Antonyms
direct conversation, addressing the issue
Related words
Elephant in the Room vs taboo
A taboo is something forbidden by culture. An 'elephant in the room' is a very obvious, shared problem that everyone is purposefully ignoring in a specific conversation.
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Heated Disagreement at Table
Two unnamed adults have a heated disagreement at a table, with one using pointed, angry gestures while the other leans back.
The core of the disagreement is the elephant in the room. There is an obvious, major issue that is the source of all their anger, yet they are deliberately focused on arguing over the symptoms rather than addressing the elephant directly, which remains unnamed by mutual agreement.
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Questions about this word
What does "Elephant in the Room" mean?
Elephant in the Room is idiom meaning: An obvious problem everyone is aware of but no one will discuss. A major, obvious issue, problem, or uncomfortable truth that exists in plain sight but that everyone in the situation is deliberately avoiding addressing. The elephant is undeniable and yet, by mutual agreement, unnamed.
Where does the word "Elephant in the Room" come from?
From a 1959 New York Times article, though the metaphor's logic is older. The absurdity of ignoring something as large and obvious as an elephant made the image perfect for naming the dynamic of avoided truths.