Sonder vs Empathy: What’s the Difference?

The difference at a glance

Sonder names the recognition that other people have vivid, complex lives of their own. Empathy is the ability to understand or share another person's feelings by imagining their situation. Sonder can prompt empathy, but recognizing that someone has a full life is not the same as understanding what they feel.

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What does Sonder mean?

noun · /ˈsɒndər/

The realization that each passerby has a life as vivid, complex, and real as your own — full of ambitions, routines, heartbreaks, and joy that you'll never witness.

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Sonder in a sentence

Watching the airport crowd, he was overcome by sonder — all those lives intersecting.

Sonder hit her in the grocery store, looking at the woman two lanes over.

What does Empathy mean?

noun · /ˈempəθi/

The ability to understand and share the feelings of another person; imaginatively entering another's inner experience.

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Empathy in a sentence

Her empathy for her clients went beyond professional concern — she carried their worries home.

Good writing is an act of empathy — the author inhabits someone else's life.

Frequently asked questions

What is the difference between Sonder and Empathy?

Sonder names the recognition that other people have vivid, complex lives of their own. Empathy is the ability to understand or share another person's feelings by imagining their situation. Sonder can prompt empathy, but recognizing that someone has a full life is not the same as understanding what they feel.

What does Sonder mean?

The realization that each passerby has a life as vivid, complex, and real as your own — full of ambitions, routines, heartbreaks, and joy that you'll never witness.

What does Empathy mean?

The ability to understand and share the feelings of another person; imaginatively entering another's inner experience.

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